Should I stay with him??

"Dear Nicole,

I have a partner, i think he is the first serious guy that i really have hooked up with, he is sweet, caring, loving... He messages me everyday, calls me when i don't respond and then hugs me tightly when im sad (i really do feel like a girl around him) the only thing is that he is a flirt. yes you heard it right, my boyfriend is a flirt, he goes out with a lot of people, people that i know. He does have reasons to cover up his tracks, though a lot of my friends are telling me that he is lying, i still can't believe them... Nicole what should i do? I'm tired but at the same time i am really in love with this guy!

Yours truly,
Lady in Red"

Dear Lady in Red,

This is normal, i mean not the cheating part, but the doubting and being confused part, of course you want to believe him, its a given fact that lovers would trust each other, all i can say is that okay so trust him, even though there's a lot of rumors, you still are emotionally obligated and just plainly obligated (because of the trust factor i used the term obligated, you cant call your partner a partner if there is no trust right?) to believe your partner. you don't have to prove it right, if the rumors are really true then the truth will eventually come out. rumors are still rumors.

BUT... if you see things with your own eyes... there's only one thing to do... STOP. no more explanations. It's one thing to give your lover a second... a third chance, but its another thing to catch them red handed. yes it's painful, i can't imagine how painful it would be but you must carry on. you should carry on. how can you find the one perfect for you if your heart is shrouded by the lies that he has been feeding you?

there is nothing wrong into hoping that everything would turn out alright, the wrong thing is that when you are being hurt beyond your limits. love your self, how can you give love to others when you yourself can't love your self properly.

i believe in your strength lady in red :)


yours,

Nicole Richie