Torn between two lovers

"Dear Nicole,

I have a dilemma, well it's like this, i had a bf, we were okay and stuff, but then it came to the point where i just gave up, i mean it's not because of the fights and problems, as much as possible we tried to work things out, but then suddenly, i think i just fell out of love? i mean I my self is not sure... i have been head over heels with this guy for the longest time, but then another guy came.

well actually Guy B was there even before Guy A and i started. I weighed them both and found that i like guy A more. but guy B did not give up. He still continued to court me and did not neglect to send me at least a text message a day saying how much he loves me and that he is still waiting...

well his wait didn't come to a waste... i started to notice his efforts, he was consistent. I.. well.. fell inlove with guy B and fell out of love for guy A...

Guy A could not blame me, he changed right after i said yes, he seemed to just remember me once in a while, and he started to lie and hide things from me, it's like when the icing on the cake was gone all that was left was a bitter tasting bread.

well my problem is, i am going out now with guy B, we are exclusive already, the thing is, i did not tell guy A, i did not break up with him or anything i just stopped contacting him. Is it okay for me to do that? or should i talk to him about this? i don't know what to do please help me!


yours truly,

babytorn"


Dear babytorn,

one thing is for sure, you have to talk to him, though you are not obliged to, you have to close the deal, seal in the box or finish the unfinished business. If not then both of you wouldn't be really free from each other.

first you do have to apologize, for any relationship, you must end the current one to be able to move on to the next one. though you don't have to apologize for what you have felt, you just have to apologize for the fact that you did not inform him.

second you have to apologize to guy B, for committing to him with out ending the previous commitment

third, you have to apologize to yourself, you have been too hard on your self already, remember that you would not be looking for another love if the guy you are with could satisfy your happiness and needs, it only means that there is something lacking in your relationship with guy A that you have found in guy B. it is not a crime to fall in and out of love, its just destiny.

Talk to guy A, then go to guy B and kiss him passionately, maybe just maybe, you have found the one who would make you truly happy :)

At your service,

Nicole Richie

"For love is like a river, flowing continuously... you can't stop it just like destiny." -anonymous