To fall or not to fall?

"Good day nicole,

I'm a 24 year old guy living with my parents, i don't have a stable job and i have come from bad relationships. actually all of my relationships ended badly. Well there's this guy, he is 2 years younger than me, he is so nice to me, we started hanging out, watching a movie, having dinner, it was sort of like a date but it wasn't. it came to the point that we stayed up the whole night talking about nothing and everything, from our experiences to our beliefs and we seem to jive on every aspect of life, then he asked me a question if he could love me or not? I answered that he can't because we are already happy like this, where we could tell everything to each other... so 6 months passed already and we are still the same, i am not looking for any one and he isn't searching either. I am confused, i like him but i don't know if i love him, he has everything that i need and want and he is more than what i hoped for, im just scared that if we become a couple we might just end up hurting each other... now someone is courting him, and he said he is starting to like the guy and he asked me if it would be okay for him to say yes to the guy... I couldn't say anything... nicole what should i do...? i don't want to lose him but i'm scared to love him...

waiting for your response,
Cheekyguy"


Dear cheeky guy,

you remind me of a line in hamlet or was it macbeth? To be or not to be? that is the question. What can I say? I say GO FOR IT, i mean hello! take the risk or forever hold your piece, if you think this guy is perfect then might as well try to get him, if he stayed by your side with out complaining for 6 months then he must like you too! its just that you told him to not fall in love with you that's why he is not taking the first move. you were the one who said not to fall, so you be the one to erase what you said and accept that you yourself have fallen already. By saying fallen it means you already love the guy you just don't want to admit it yet. I might be wrong about this but your letter says otherwise :)

you felt comfortable with him being there, now that you know that there is a some one who could grab all his attention away from you, you think that it i s a threat and now you are starting to realize his true value. Examine your self, whether you really love him or if you are just jealous because you were so used to him being there for you.

just for the record, if you two are really friends, if you are really comfortable with each other, even if you end up hurting each other, you would find ways to forgive each other and remain as good friends. hurting someone is also a part of testing the strength of a relationship, whether it be as friends or as couples.

"Do not hold on to something if you are just going to let it go, and don't let go of something that you can not bear to see being held by another." -B.Ong


sincerely,

Nicole Richie